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Interview with Tiffany Gosselin

Gosselin, Tiffany
Bowden, Ebony
Date of Interview: 
Relationships with people and places; Tolerance and respect
Tiffany Gosselin talks about college life and her mother.
Charlotte Narrative and Conversation Collection
Collection Description: 
Ebony Bowden interviews Charlotteans to collect stories for a class project at UNC Charlotte.
Interview Audio: 
EB (Ebony Bowden): -Participant. Um, Tiffany where are you from?
TG (Tiffany Gosselin): Monroe.
EB: And what county is that?
TG: Union County.
EB: OK. How old are you Tiffany?
TG: 21.
EB: Are you a student at the University of North Carolina Charlotte?
TG: Yes, I am.
EB: All right. Can you share with us any kind of story or anything that you feel is significant about you or your experiences in life?
TG: Uh, yeah.
TG: [Laughs] This is so weird. OK. Um [snaps her fingers] I can, can I talk about what I want to do here at school?
EB: Yeah.
TG: OK. Um, when I first got to UNC Charlotte it was after I spent two years in the military at Fort Bragg. And I came in as a political science major, man, and, um, and I want to go to law school after college. And now I'm a, I want to be a double major in communications with a public advocacy track. And I'm in the ROTC, I'm in Zeta Tau Alpha, and I'm the student attorney general, and I'm dating a guy that I don't really like.
EB: Tell me why you don't like him.
TG: He's a dork.
EB: He's a dork?
TG: [Laughs] No. Like he's OK, he's a really nice guy. Jeremiah's a really nice guy but I don't feel that way about him. And I really tried to feel that way about him and I just don't. So he's becoming like a bugaboo.
EB: Hmm. What kind of guys do you like?
TG: Well, um, Damon Brown is so fine. No I'm joking. Um, the last guy I dated was, he was on the Special Forces team, I met him at Fort Bragg. And normally I like tall guys, and he's short and normally I like light-skinned guys and he's dark-skinned. He's just physically not the type of guy I normally go for, but like, I fell so in love with him and I still love him, even though he's mean.
EB: What about him do you like?
TG: That he's, he's settled, he's ambitious, he's like, he's 27 and he's like an E-7 in the military, and he's done everything in the Army that you could do, like Special Forces, he's scuba qualified, airborne, I don't know. I just think he's a strong person and maybe he's not good at relationships, but he's a decent guy. I don't know, I don't know what else to talk about. He called me the other day from South America.
EB: Ooh, what did y'all talk about?
TG: We talked about, um, him coming home and he said that he don't even know why they're over there because like it's so corrupt, they don't even know who they're fighting. Like the drug lords and stuff over there are paying people off but, he said he was going to be down there and your cell phone is ringing in the middle of the interview. OK. Um, I want to talk about my mom now. She was born and raised in Monroe, North Carolina and I was born in Monroe, too. She, um, she met my dad when she was 13. She had me when she was 15. And she's worked all her life. And she had, I have two other half brothers. Her and my dad never got married, and she married another guy and, um, her and my step-dad had two kids and then my dad and his wife had another, um son. [Clears throat] So I got three half brothers and my mom put herself back through, she got her GED, she went through high school and now she's going to nursing school at Presbyterian. She's worked as a secretary technician at the hospital since I was like 13. Um, so now she's going back to get her nursing degree and she's doing this while she's still raising my brothers. And, um, I don't know what else to talk about. She's nice, [laughs] like she's my best friend. Like, we grew up together [Pause] and-.
EB: What do you mean by y'all grew up together?
TG: Just because she was so young when she had me like she talked to me about bill problems and man problems and she talk to me like she talk to a friend, not like her daughter. And so, we had, that's why we kind of we grew up together. Um-.
EB: You going to go home for Thanksgiving?
TG: Yeah. I need to do homework but I'm going to go to my grandma's house for Thanksgiving. We're driving down to the beach, my mom and my aunt and, um, my brothers. Anything else? I don't know what else to talk about. OK, what do I tell them I'm talking about?
EB: ( ).
TG: OK. I'm telling this story about my sorority sisters and my roommate and my best friend. I got to talk quiet because they're here.
TG: Um, what had happened was Courtney liked this guy name Ryan, right?
EB: Um-hum.
TG: And um, and she didn't ask him to our semi-formal 'cause she didn't think that he'd go, you know what I'm saying?
EB: Um-hum.
TG: And, um, I hope they can't hear me. And anyway, 'cause she didn't think that he could go and so she asked another boy, right? But she still likes this Ryan guy, she just didn't think that he'd go with her and so Mary goes behind the girl's back and asks Ryan to go with her. Now that's her sorority sister, and supposedly her friend. How you going to go ask a guy you know that your sister likes, like she's been talking about him non-stop for a month and ask him to the semi-formal? Like I thought that was dirty off the gate.
EB: Right.
TG: Um, we, I was eating lunch with two other of our sorority sisters, Rachel and Heather, the other day. And Rachel and Heather were like, "Yeah Courtney is not happy about that, da, da, da, she mad," this and this and this, and um, so I come back and I told Lauren, I'm like, "Yo. Courtney said she was not happy about da, da, da." But I told that to Lauren like in confidence, me and her, like me and you talking, you know what I'm saying? That's something that I wouldn't tell nobody else 'cause I figured it's gone be between just us. Well, uh, Lauren gets all huffy and she calls Courtney, she calls three other of our sisters, trying to figure out who told him that, trying to figure out who told me that and then she called me wanting to know who told me. I was like, "They didn't tell me so that I would tell you. I'm not gone tell you who told me 'cause it's not your business."
EB: Um-hum.
TG: You know what I'm saying?
EB: Um-hum.
TG: Then I'm betraying their confidence. I just told you.
EB: So did they find out that you snitched?
TG: I don't know, but I'm not telling, them who told me. And then Courtney, like they went and asked Courtney, and Courtney was like, "No. I don't care, I don't care, I don't care," you know. That's cool but she ( ) but I don't think, like, I think she's lying. I know what bothers her 'cause she told three other people that it bothered her, the people that told me. You know what I'm saying? And it's something I shouldn't uh got involved in. Anyway, but I just got mad because something that I told Lauren that was supposed to be between me and Lauren, she went and told everybody else and that now-.
EB: So is she like still going to the thing with him?
TG: No, she's not going. She says she hurt her ankle or something but I think it has to do with all of this. But, um, like Lauren's mad at me now 'cause I won't tell her who told me 'cause she don't understand why I won't tell her. But it's like, "Dude, you shouldn't have said anything out the gate," I shouldn't have said anything because, then I was gossiping, you know what I'm saying? But then she shouldn't, she shouldn't have said anything that I told her. It was supposed to be between me and her, to everybody. She told like a whole bunch of people getting rowdy about it.
EB: Um-hum.
TG: And she was like, "Well, Courtney's taking somebody else so, um, Courtney don't even care, da, da, da, da, da, da, da." All right, Courtney's taking somebody else because Courtney doesn't think Ryan would go with her. All right he's, she's been talking about this guy for a solid month, how much she likes him, how cool she thinks he is. And all of a sudden one of her sorority sisters asks him to go, even as friends? That's shady. I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't expect one of my sisters to do it to me. But, at the same time it's none of my business. I was just commenting on a situation to Lauren because we talk about everything, our sorority. Yeah, but Courtney's not happy about it. All of a sudden Lauren's gone went and told like 50 people like.
EB: Courtney ain't got no right to be mad.
TG: Yeah. And it all comes back to, "Well, Tiffany told me," you know what I'm saying? And now she wants to know who told me. And I'm like, "I'm not going to do that 'cause I ain't spraying nobody else up." 'Cause that's, you know what I'm saying? They that, if they wanted Meagan to hear that or they wanted Courtney to hear that, they would have told them. They didn't. If I would have wanted Megan to know, I would have told her.
EB: Right.
TG: I didn't, I talked to Lauren about it. So that's the drama that's been going on today.
EB: Thank you.
TG: You're welcome.