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Monologue by Brenda Stilwell

Stilwell, Brenda
Stilwell, Carla
Date of Interview: 
Relationships with people and places; Cultural identification
Brenda Stilwell talks about her hobbies, family and values.
Charlotte Narrative and Conversation Collection
Collection Description: 
Carla Stilwell interviews Charlotteans to collect stories for a class project at UNC Charlotte.
Interview Audio: 
BS (Brenda Stilwell): My name is Brenda, um, I'm C-, Carla's mom, uh, I've lived in Charlotte since I was four years old. [Break] Hi, my name is Brenda, I'm Carla's mom. I've lived in Charlotte since I was four years old. Um, I was born in Roanoke, Virginia, but I moved away when I was six months old to Atlanta, Georgia, so I lived in Atlanta, Georgia during the time that I learned how to talk. Um [sigh], my father was a southerner, also my mother was, but my father was born in, he, he lived in Detroit, Michigan until he was like, you know, a, um, 14, 15 years old. So he talked southern, but he talked pretty fast and I think that I, I got a lot of that from my dad 'cause I do get to talking pretty fast. Um, ah, I'm a registered nurse now, I was educated here in Charlotte and I married a guy that was a native Charlottean, so yeah, from the time, I've been here since I've been four years old, never moved, of course, my husband has never lived outside of this area. Um [sigh], I have three kids and, um, right now it looks like all three of them are going to stay in Charlotte. My, my oldest one is 26 and married and he is, um, he and his wife live in Charlotte. My, my youngest one is bound and determined that she'll never move away from us, but, of course, that could change, a lot. Um, I don't know what all I'm supposed to be saying at this point, um, except I'm, you know, a, a southerner down to the tips of my toes. I'm very proud of my heritage. I'm of Scottish origin, um, I'm real proud of the clan that my father came from and all in Scotland and, um, very much into my family. I'm very close to my mother. My father died three years ago and I, um, help take care of my mother now and do a lot of her, her bills and all that. I'm one of four children, the youngest of four. I have, um, two brothers and a sister older than I am. Um, my husband is also the youngest, of three and so, um, both of us are the youngest in our family. And, um, we do real well. Um, we live out in the country, well in Mint Hill so that's not really considered the country anymore. I do have a dog, a golden retriever named A.J. And, um, at one time I wanted to have six children and the Lord only blessed me with three, but I have truly been blessed with three children and the dog and the whole gamut. I love to volunteer at my children's school and, um, if I ever get to the point where I can't do that I don't know what I would do, so I've always worked either, either I did not work outside the home or I worked part time that's so I could do my volunteering and be a part of my children's lives at school or wherever they were. I also volunteer at my church, um, probably about 10 to 20 hours a week I volunteer at the church. I teach Sunday school, I teach eleventh to twelfth graders. I also sing in the choir and sing in an, um, an adult ensemble of twelve voices. Let me see, Candice, what else can I say? You don't know either, huh? Um, I like to cook, I love my home. Um, I don't like to say that I'm country, I guess deep down inside that I probably am, or very traditional, I have very traditional values as far as morality goes. I believe that, um, you know, family should be, you know, God and family should be number one in your lives. If you take care of each other they'll take care of you and, um, I'm very patriotic, um, I got that from my dad. Patriotism and our flag just means a whole lot to me. Um, being with your family at Christmas or any holidays, and then, of course, you need to be able to call on your family whenever you, um, whenever you have tough times and even to share the tough times and the bad times too, um, and the good times too, I meant to say. Um, and I know I shouldn't be saying, 'um' [pause]. I love to cook. I like to cook sweets that's my favorite thing. My favorite food is chocolate, believe it or not, if, if that's considered a food, and I think it is. I like the dark chocolate, that's my absolute favorite. I like to have my gir-, time with my girlfriends. I think that's real important, try to get together with my girlfriends every Tuesday mornings. About four or five of us meet for breakfast. That's a, one of the highlights of my week. Um, my husband and I try to go out on a date about once a week that's usually on the weekend. Sometimes we do it on Thursday nights. My husband is a golfer, he loves to play golf and I can't quite get the hang of that I'm not real good at that. I love to read, um, I'd love to write children's books one day, but that time hasn't come yet, I'm still busy being a mom. Um, I can't think of what else I need to say Carla, you're just going to have to let me know so I'm going stop for here.