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Interview with Gina Renee Dorminy Thompson

Thompson, Gina Renee Dorminy
Raczka, Andrea
Date of Interview: 
Relationships with people and places
Gina Thompson talks about her kids and growing up.
Charlotte Narrative and Conversation Collection
Collection Description: 
Andrea Raczka interviews Charlotteans to collect stories for a class project at UNC Charlotte.
AR (Andrea Raczka): Please state your full name.
GT (Gina Renee Dorminy Thompson): Gina Renee Dorminy Thompson.
AR: [Laughs] And how old are you?
GT: 24.
AR: What do you do for a living?
GT: I'm a hairstylist and 24-7 mom.
AR: Oh. How many kids do you have?
GT: Two.
AR: What are their names?
GT: Korbyn Bryce Thompson, who is four as of yesterday, and Brayden Zane Thompson who is, um, 20 let's see, let's figure this out here. He was two on December 8th, so 28 months.
AR: Wow. Those are very original names.
GT: Very.
AR: Why do you have original names?
GT: They're not original \\ [laugh]. \\
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\ They're not original? Where'd they come from?
GT: Yeah, no, they're original. I was the only Gina Dorminy in school growing up, so that's why they're different, 'cause I was different, and then I married a boring old Thompson.
AR: [Laugh] So you had to do something really different-.
GT: \\ Yeah. \\
AR: \\ -To throw \\ it off [laughs].
GT: Yeah. I always said if I had children they would have different names.
AR: So you're married then?
GT: Nope.
AR: You're not married.
GT: No, but I was and they have the same dad. [Laughter] That's a question I always get asked, "You have kids?" "Yes." "You do?" "Yes." I always get whether they have the same dad. "Yes." "Were you married?" Yes, but now I'm divorced after being separated for almost two years, I just got divorced in January. And two years was as of March.
AR: Should I say congratulations?
GT: Oh, yes.
AR: [Laugh]
GT: [Cough]
AR: How long have you lived in Charlotte?
GT: About three and a half years.
AR: Where did you live before here?
GT: Um, right before here I lived in Wilkesborough, North Carolina for about 11 months which was worse than living in Mount Airy which I lived in basically my entire life. You know, good old Mayberry, Andy Griffith. \\ That old place? \\
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\ Yeah.
GT: Yeah. Boring place.
AR: [Laughs] No.
GT: But my grandfather, my step, my step dad's grandpa, ah, my step dad's dad, was actually barber of Floyd's barbershop and co-owner. And my step dad is chief of police in Mount Airy, so.
AR: Oh.
GT: Yeah.
AR: Connections.
GT: Yeah, right?
AR: [Laugh] So why did you move to Charlotte?
GT: Um, my husband's at the time's job brought us here.
AR: Do you like the area?
GT: Yes, love it.
AR: Much better?
GT: Yes.
AR: What do you like about it?
GT: Everything. It's busy, it's not boring. There's things to do.
AR: Like what? What do you like to do?
GT: Um, well, when I have my kids, when they're not with their dad, I like to take them to the park, shopping, we eat out a lot, go to movies, dance around the house like idiots, um-.
AR: [Laugh]
GT: When I don't have them and they're with their dad I enjoy hanging out with my friends, and going out to clubs and dancing and occasionally drinking a little but, not that I'm a drunk or a lush or nothing, but, yes, I enjoy having a few drinks ever occasionally because I'm old enough and I can.
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ So \\ why not?
AR: [Cough] Right [laugh]. What was you're childhood like?
GT: Um, my parents, we lived in, well, I was actually born in Gaylocks Virginia, but we lived right across the state line in, um, Innes, North Carolina, and lived there until I was four, um, my parents split up and divorced when I was probably about a year and a half old and then we lived with my grandparents for a while 'cause times were rough with my mom, and um, she worked but my dad sometimes chose to not pay child support which he ended up eventually having to get caught up on. And um, hmm, but anyway, um, my mom ended up marrying a Mount Airy police officer who is now my step dad for almost 20 years, it'll be 20 years this December. And when I was four years old, actually four and a half, they got married and then we moved in with my step dad and his daughter which, I of course have a stepsister now and they had brother and sister from me which are half brother and sister, so, um, there were four of us kids growing up and everything's been great. My dad's been married, um, several times, I'm not trying to follow in his footsteps-.
AR: [Laugh]
GT: -But, um, things are good. So I basically went to school started out when I was five and went to elementary school in Mount Airy and continued all the way through, and then went to the community college because I went to beauty school to become a cosmetologist.
AR: Wow [laughs]. I don't have to ask you very much.
GT: [Laughs] Yeah.
AR: So when you were growing up, did you like, did you like your school?
GT: Yes.
AR: Yes?
GT: Cheerleading, soccer, homecoming queen.
AR: You were homecoming queen?
GT: Uh-huh. And I'm not bragging but I was the only one in my class to be on the homecoming court all four years. And then get queen, too.
AR: That's awesome.
GT: Yeah \\ [cough]. \\
AR: \\ Way to go Miss Popularity. \\
GT: If there was something going on Gina was in the middle of it. I was in all the clubs. Yeah. Good old days.
AR: Do you miss that?
GT: I do, I miss, I think basically, I miss the sports and the fun but, hey if you want something bad enough you can do that when you're older, too.
AR: Yeah, you said you were going to try out for cheerleading aren't you?
GT: Yeah, next March.
AR: You are looking forward to it?
GT: Yeah, it'll be fun. Even if I don't make it, it's oh well, it's an experience, right? Worst thing could happen is you not make it.
AR: Exactly, and then, oh well.
GT: But if you do it'll be awesome, I don't even care, everybody's like "Oh, they don't pay you nothing." But you know what? It ain't about getting paid, it's just about the enjoyment of it. I always wanted to go off to college and cheer and I didn't because I just decided to go into cosmetology which you know was more buying and I had to take extra curricular classes and all that but, I dated a guy that's six years older than me and he wanted to get married and I said, "No," and when we broke up then I met my husband and got married at 19, had two kids, got divorced. Yeah, it's been a crazy life.
AR: [Laugh] Never a dull moment.
GT: Huh?
AR: Never a dull moment.
GT: No. But you know with me, you know there's never a dull moment.
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ There's always \\ something going on.
AR: [Laughs]
GT: That's probably why we balance each other out in our friendship.
AR: I agree. I agree very much.
GT: [Cough] Sorry, I have little bit of allergies coming on.
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ [Laughs] \\
AR: OK. I'm good at this. Huh. Yeah. Did you, uh, oh, OK do you get along with your parents? Both your parents?
GT: Yes, I don't have any step parent, well my dad's not married right now but yes, I have basically two dads and one mom. Basically have a dad, a step dad, and a mom.
AR: You have lots of parents.
GT: Yeah [laugh].
AR: I only have only have two [laughs].
GT: I only have three. My step dad's not a real talker.
AR: No, but he's fun.
GT: Yes.
AR: He's a nice guy.
GT: Yeah he is. He's very fun, I like him, he's got a personality, he's fun to talk to.
AR: He's very funny, I liked him at the party, at Korbings party.
GT: Yeah, when he like breaks out of that whole serious mode, he's a pretty cool guy.
AR: They all seem to like Jason.
GT: Oh, yeah, and it, it's nice to actually for once meet, or actually date somebody that my step dad actually likes.
AR: Really?
GT: It must be a cop thing.
AR: [Laugh] So I take it he didn't like your ex-husband very much.
GT: No.
AR: No?
GT: No.
AR: Did anybody in your family like him?
GT: No.
AR: [Laughs] OK.
GT: When they first met him, until they got to know his personality.
AR: [Laughs]
GT: He wasn't a very, um, he's not, he wasn't very good husband material, boyfriend material. He's really a poor excuse for a human being.
AR: Oh, but we're not bashing him or anything.
GT: No.
AR: Not at all.
GT: Just being honest.
AR: Exactly [laughs].
GT: And I don't say that because he's my ex-husband, I say that because he was abusive mentally, physically, verbally.
AR: Oh. That's pretty rough.
GT: Yeah, you learn to deal with it, you think you get over things but you know what it always comes back some how to haunt you.
AR: Can I ask how or is that too personal?
GT: Yeah, you can ask how. Um, OK, example. Dating a guy, you know, he does one little thing to piss me off, excuse my language, and I blow off the handle because it's not, it's not like I see my ex-husband, but I think it's all the memories come back of how he used to treat me that it just kind of hits home and I hear it one little thing or one little, one little word can come out the wrong way and it's like 10 times worse than it would be if, I wouldn't have had an ex-husband that treated me the way he did. That's, you get what I'm saying?
AR: Uh-huh, uh-huh.
GT: If you had not been through the experiences you probably would not get as upset.
AR: Right, right, but because they remind you of-.
GT: Yeah, and I don't sit and think, "Oh gosh, sound like my ex-husband," I feel at the same time I think, "OK," I think it's just my body reacts as if it were the same.
AR: You're just so used to reacting that way anyway.
GT: Right.
AR: So it's natural \\ ( ). \\
GT: \\ And \\ I've been called so many names and told what a piece of crap. Good example, have a good example. I am very self-conscious about not having a chest. I want breast implants and one day will get them, and one of my reasons why I think I am so self-conscious about my chest is because my ex-husband told me so much about how I was so flat chested and looked more like a male than a female and blah blah blah blah.
AR: Oh.
GT: So it's always uh-.
AR: You're tiny anyways.
GT: Yeah.
AR: If you had big boobs, hon, you'd fall over.
GT: Yeah well, but a little bit wouldn't a hurt.
AR: Like to there [laugh]. Can I ask what your size is?
GT: Now? Yes, it's anywhere, it's either a 34B or a 32A.
AR: And what do you want?
GT: At least a full C baby [laugh].
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ [Laughs] \\
AR: That is quite a change.
GT: Yeah.
AR: [Laugh]
GT: I have, I have like the J. Lo butt and I just want to get a little bit of the-.
AR: The J. Lo boob? \\ [Laugh] \\
GT: \\ Yeah, \\ yeah. I'd like to get a little more balance instead of my stomach sticking out farther than my chest. It's true though-.
AR: \\ [Laugh] \\
GT: \\ -It's true though. \\ I just wish for once when I turn sideways in the mirror that my stomach would be flatter than my chest.
AR: But your stomach is very flat.
GT: But not flatter than my chest.
AR: [Laugh] So I have that problem too, but I'll stay away from implants. You tell me how they are, though, OK.
GT: I will. Yeah, you'll see them or feel them or whatever.
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ That was a joke, that was just a joke. \\ It's like having a wooden leg, right?
AR: There you go, you just show it to everybody.
GT: You want to see my wooden leg? You want to see my implants? Nah, I'm just kidding.
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ I wouldn't show them \\ off because I would want them for myself not for everybody else.
AR: And for your future husband?
GT: Nope, just for me.
AR: Just for you?
GT: He wouldn't have to rub them, I'd be rubbing on them myself.
AR: [Laugh]
GT: [Cough] No I don't, I don't know, I mean I like I like to check around but I, uh, I told him flat out. He told me he would actually pay for them.
AR: Really?
GT: Uh-huh.
AR: That's cool.
GT: He told me that just today that they would be ours but I said technically they would be mine but I might let you look at them occasionally, but-.
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ -I'm not \\ doing it for you or anybody else, I'll be doing it for myself.
AR: Why'd he offer?
GT: Because he knows I want them. He's says I don't need them but if I want them and it'll make me feel better, then he thinks I should get them.
AR: As long as it makes you happy?
GT: Yep.
AR: Kind of like that ring he bought?
GT: [Laugh] Yeah right.
AR: There, that thing is gorgeous.
GT: Yeah, um. He got a good deal on it. He finally told me.
AR: Did he?
GT: Yeah.
AR: How much?
GT: I'll tell you when we're not being recorded \\ [laugh]. \\
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\ Yeah, well, he already told me, so, you know.
GT: [Laugh] Did he?
AR: Yeah, at Double Door, that weekend.
GT: How much did he tell you?
AR: I'm not going to tell you.
GT: What if I tell you off record.
AR: Exactly. He's a cop. He may get upset when he hears this [laugh].
GT: Yeah really.
AR: Mm-hmm. It's nice to have connections.
GT: They should make a, uh, calendar of Huntersville police officers 'cause good baby. One night I got to ride with, um, I was actually gonna ride with him, but they wouldn't let me because of the whole safety issue, I guess if he's getting the crap beat out of him or fighting with somebody they didn't, they don't want the girlfriend or the wife to flip out.
AR: Oh is that why?
GT: Yes.
GT: So, technically they won't let you ride with anybody.
AR: That's a significant other.
GT: Yes. So I got to ride with, um, another officer and it was awesome even thought the night was totally dead and we went to one alarm call which basically you walk around the-.
AR: \\ Perimeter? \\
GT: \\ -House, \\ yes, to see what's going on and it was actually right down the road from your parent's house.
AR: Really?
GT: Yeah, beautiful house.
AR: There was a shooting like a couple houses down from my parent's house.
GT: Really?
AR: Yeah, someone blew out the back window of someone's car. Like about four or five houses down.
GT: What kind of car was it?
AR: I don't know. I wasn't there. My mom told me about it.
GT: On the right?
AR: Yeah. Was that the same house? [Laugh]
GT: Right around that area.
AR: Yeah.
GT: Two like Mercedes cars were being-.
AR: It was something nice.
GT: It was, um, when we went it was it was two males and, um, two really nice Mercedes sittingthere. But nothing really happened, but we did, uh, go check out a few vehicles and run radar and flip around the middle of the road. We clocked a 17-year-old going, um, right like you're headed towards Concord you know, right before you get to 115?
AR: Uh-huh.
GT: You go down a hill and up the hill. Clocked her, a girl, going well she was going 70 but by the time he clocked her she was going 68 in a 45.
AR: Oh, \\ dear. \\
GT: \\ Yeah. \\
AR: Did you pull her over?
GT: Yeah. Flipped around the middle the road and went after her. That was pretty fun, but, um, yeah, basically when you think you're going 45 and before the next thing you know, you're stopped on the side of the road flipping around full power.
AR: Wow.
GT: It was awesome. And, um, he just showed me how you run radar, how you run tags, how you basically if you're riding down the road if I'm riding down the road and there's a police officer behind me and he feels like checking my tag, he can run my tag and if you have any, um, 1059, those are warrants. It'll come back and basically he'll stop you and you are S.O.L. [cough] or it'll come back if it's a fictitious tag or all this stuff. It was pretty cool. But, um, we went down a couple of the bad areas in Huntersville and um-.
AR: Bad areas in Huntersville?
GT: Yeah.
AR: Come on now.
GT: Like uh the little crack-head houses and stuff and there's a lady actually walking across the street and he said that she was known for, um, she had had two of her children taken away and she smoked crack pretty regular and she come up and he stopped and asked her how things were going basically and how everything was going that night 'cause her and her husband fight a lot and she had a huge stomach, looked like she about eight or nine months pregnant and he asked me, he was like, "Gina did you realize how her teeth's gone, how her teeth rot out." And I said, "Yes." He said, "That means that's from smoking too much crack."
AR: Really? I didn't know it did that.
GT: Yeah, no I didn't either. I said, well, not to be personal, but isn't she pregnant? And he said "No, that's a tumor."
AR: Nuh-uh.
GT: Yes.
AR: Wow.
GT: And he said he actually helped get her kids taken away because basically her children I think she had an eight or nine year old son and she would go to like say Target for shampoo and have her son because she had a cartload of stuff that was stolen.
AR: Oh you're kidding.
GT: Uh-huh.
AR: Poor kid.
GT: So, yeah, so they got the kids taken away. Which I think was definitely in the right not the wrong.
AR: That's too bad.
GT: [Cough] Too bad for the kids but not I mean that's ridiculous for her.
AR: Uh-huh, well it's too bad the parents aren't more responsible.
GT: Right, right. 'Cause I like to have fun but I put all my time into being a good mom.
AR: Kids come first.
GT: Uh-huh.
AR: That's the way it should be if you're gonna have kids.
GT: Exactly. I chose to get married at 19 and have my first child two days after I turned 20, and my second at 21. And before I turned 22 my husband walked out 'cause, uh, he wanted freedom. So I been raising two kids on my own since they were not quite three and a half months and not quite two. Technically I'd been raising them by myself the whole entire time, but I've been by myself, by myself since then.
AR: It must be very hard to juggle being a mom and working full time.
GT: Yeah.
AR: And trying to date.
GT: I work, I work three days a week but like two weeks ago I worked 33 hrs in three days.
AR: Wow it must be hard to do that. Where do your kids go when you're working?
GT: Um, with my ex-in-laws. They only stay there, um, two days a week but then my boyfriend, fiance, whatever he may be, whatever you want to call him.
AR: Your man.
GT: Yeah, my honey, he, um, keeps them every other Saturday.
AR: That's very nice of him.
GT: Yes. Every day he's off work, he keeps them.
AR: Is he good to your kids?
GT: Very. My little one calls him da-da [cough].
AR: Awww. How sweet.
GT: We'll say, "Who that? What's his name?" "Da-da Jase." That's what he says.
AR: Da-da Jase? I've hear him say Jase before. Ah, he's so sweet. So what do you hope you can teach your kids?
GT: To be good to women.
AR: [Laughs]
GT: To do good in school. To not be afraid to express their opinion, but to do it in a very well-mannered. To be very open and out-going and not to be shy and just not be able to carry on a conversation with people. To be all around good kids and one day be very well, I don't want to say trained but very good individuals. And be good with family actually grow up knowing right from wrong and doing right from wrong. Of course they're gonna make mistakes, but I mean I expect they're gonna do god in school and they will treat people right, with respect. They won't push people round and show their butts. Or they'll be locked in their rooms. Not to sound like child abuse or nothing but they're just going to be taught right from wrong.
AR: Well, good [laughs].
GT: And they will treat women with respect. That will not be something they learn from their dad because I would do whatever I can not to let that happen.
AR: I think you're doing a good job.
GT: It's hard, but I think in the long run like now they, I mean when they go to daddy's, you know their daddy's good to them, he's good with them, but he doesn't really get onto them and I think that me being the good person and the bad person it's hard and they-.
AR: Split personalities.
GT: Yeah, I have to be the good person but yet I have to be the bad person, too. I have to get on to them, I have to teach them right from wrong, I have to put them in timeout, I have to spank them if they run in the road, I have to, you know, teach them the things that's right and teach them the things that's wrong. And sometimes they get upset and they don't understand why, but I try to sit them down and explain why they're in trouble 'cause if you don't explain why they're in trouble, they're not gonna know-.
AR: Uh-huh.
GT: -So they're not gonna learn, and long story short basically I think one day it'll pay off and they'll know, they'll respect me for that reason.
AR: Definitely.
GT: I mean it was hard growing up with me I mean my parents were divorced, I had a step-dad that basically my mom had to do the good and the bad you know being teach me right from wrong, get onto me, because behind my mama, I was a brat, I was spoiled.
AR: [Laughs]
GT: That's why I have a problem now.
AR: Do you?
GT: Me?
AR: Come on now.
GT: That's not a bad thing.
AR: [Laughs]
GT: [Cough] But, I don't know I just think that they, they'll respect me for that reason one day.
AR: What kind of morals did your parents instill in you?
GT: Um, basically the same thing. To do right from wrong, to know, um, what kind of crowd is right to hang out with. You know, what to do and what not to do, to make good grades and I graduated a scholar and, um, an honor graduate and then, um, I also played sports. I mean I went into the season I went into the school year cheering for football, went straight into cheering for basketball and then went straight out of that into soccer. By the time soccer was over, the school year was over. Plus, in the middle of all that I was, um, secretary through middle school and through high school for student body and for my class grade. You had to be a senior to be student body but, as far as freshmen, I was the freshman class secretary, the sophomore, junior. Plus I was in S.A.D.D. and, um, all kinds of stuff. Basically if their was a club, I was in it.
AR: [Laughs]
GT: I just, I liked doing that stuff. Plus I worked, um, my senior year I worked. I worked at a place called, well, I actually got a car and and my mom took the child support that my dad paid and would make my car payment and then pay other things. You know like help buy clothes and food and stuff, my step-dad always helped out a lot with that stuff, too. She was able to pay my car payments so that I could do these things. So that was my, a lot of people probably look down on me for that. But I paid my insurance, I worked. A lot of the clothes I had, I bought. You know, if I went out, I paid. Unless I was dating, somebody. So, they basically told me, taught me to be independent, which I am, and to, basically just be a good girl.
AR: And do you think you are?
GT: I know I am.
AR: [Laughs] Good answer \\ [laughs]. \\
GT: \\ I'm very good \\ at what I do. Nah. I'm just kidding [laugh]. Nah, I think I'm a good person [cough].
AR: Not that you are a good person?
GT: Hmm?
AR: Did you say not that you're a good person?
GT: No, I think that-.
AR: Oh you think that you are. I was like what?
GT: I think that I'm a pretty good person. Overall, I mean I have my moments and I don't always give men benefit of the doubt if I go out with them, just because the way I've been treated in the past and things that I've dealt with, but that doesn't mean that I'm a bad person it just means I got some issues.
AR: [Laughs] Everybody has issues.
GT: Exactly.
AR: Everybody \\ has baggage. \\
GT: \\ We wouldn't be \\ human beings if we wouldn't be human if we didn't have issues, right?
AR: Exactly. Just some issues are a little \\ different. \\
GT: \\ [Cough] \\ But everybody always gave me a rough time because, um, they think I'm weird because my dad is a mortician, a licensed mortician, you know what that is, right?
AR: Yes, you can explain it if you want to, though.
GT: That's where uh, he works on dead people. Basically, and my step-dad's always been a cop. He was head of SWAT team, he was one that would do the drug raids would say, "OK, ready, set, go, bust through the house, now." He gave the commands and now him being chief of police and then, my step-dads chief of police, and my dad is a mortician, it's kind of both side of the track, you know?
AR: One person finds them, the other person-.
GT: \\ Fixes them. \\
AR: \\ -Fixes \\ them to bury them [laughs].
GT: And my dad's told me stories about popping eyeballs out.
AR: Oh, geez \\ [laughs]. \\
GT: \\ Yeah, \\ about getting certified to do that, you know. It's pretty cool. My step-dad is, um, he also teaches at my step-dad teaches at college and teaches like firing range, which is you have rookies or he teaches rookie school which is, um, when officers are in BLET which is Basic Law Enforcement Training. He teaches them how to shoot. Like, I actually, when I was little I was probably, seven, eight years old get to go to the fire range and watch and we would taught, you know, we knew not to touch guns, not to mess around them, but at the same time, he would stand behind us and we would get to actually aim at the target and pull the trigger.
AR: \\ How cool. \\
GT: \\ And \\ actually shoot and aim, you know he would tell us, you know, teach us how to aim and stuff, and now I'm scared to death of guns.
AR: Yeah, but that's probably a good thing, though.
GT: Exactly. But I think the reason I, I mean I know what the power, what power a gun has behind it-.
AR: Uh-huh.
GT: -Where I probably wouldn't understand that if I wouldn't had been able to do that.
AR: Uh-huh.
GT: Because we literally, you know and plus it's more extreme for a seven year old to and I know probably people think that's psycho \\ ( ). \\
AR: \\ Well, \\ you know, it would make sense to, to do like a little thing like that just so they could feel the power form the \\ recoil. \\
GT: \\ Yeah, \\ because you don't realize how much it shoots you back.
AR: Uh-huh.
GT: When you pull that trigger, it's like, I mean it actually would have knocked me down if I wasn't, if he wouldn't have been standing right behind me.
AR: Well I'm sure \\ ( ). \\
GT: \\ And \\ his finger was, was over mine, you know-.
AR: Uh-huh.
GT: -So I thought it was cool and I was pretty good at knocking down those targets.
AR: OK, [tape sound] hello, hello, hello, we were talking about morals and everything earlier. Have yours changed at all from when you were younger?
GT: Yes.
AR: Your views on life and everything?
GT: Yes.
AR: What's changed?
GT: I mean I've always wanted to grow up, have a family, have the whole picket fence deal, you know, but-.
AR: American Dream?
GT: Yeah, exactly. But at the same time, I never dreamed, I mean I figured that I would be getting married at the age I am now, not when I was 19.
AR: Uh-huh.
GT: Um, I guess I was just infatuated with him and thought that he was the greatest thing on the earth. And then got pregnant, I was actually 3 months pregnant when I got married, I told him I would not marry him for that reason, but, naturally, after we got married, he would always bring it up that was the only reason he would marry me, after, you know, every fight we got into that's what he would say. So I think that's one reason I look at things the way I do, I don't just, I won't sleep around for the fact that I've got two kids and evidently that shows that I'm fertile.
AR: \\ [Laughs] \\
GT: \\ So \\ you know I'm not going to go out and sleep around with any, I mean, you know at the same time, yes I do want to I mean, I, I was forced to grow up, which isn't a bad thing.
AR: No.
GT: And it's probably good because I'd probably be out every night clubbing, whatever.
AR: [Laughs]
GT: You know, I mean my life would have definitely been different if I wouldn't have gotten married so young and had two children but, I mean I miss not being able to go out and do some of the things I missed out on, but at the same time, I'm glad I've got them. I wouldn't give it up for nothing.